After the expression of the suppressed emotions gets available, the following question naturally arises: how to stop pushing them deep inside and to learn to express them directly when they appear?
In order to stop suppressing, you need to learn how to see the appearing emotion and desire as soon as it starts to appear. It takes little: you must be present at what is happening, i.e. be aware. In other words, awareness is the main key to getting rid of the habit to suppress all the movements in your emotional and mind bodies. Transformation and decoupling turn into another dream beyond your grasp unless you get rid of this habit.
The easiest way to learn to see how your emotions are suppressed is to start with your physical body. If you have already learned to observe its state, you will have no difficulty capturing the moments when you suppress expression of your energies. Any emotion tries to be expressed through your body: fury with shouting and fighting, sadness with lament and tears, fear and anxiety with shrinking into yourself. Emotions cannot be controlled unless your body is engaged, the same way as information cannot be transferred without a suitable carrier: paper in the printed form, USB and hard drives in the digital form etc. Your body is a carrier of emotions to some extent. That is why when you are observing your body, you can see how it responds the moment you control your desires and feelings. For instance, if you are aware of your breathing, sooner or later you will notice that it sometimes gets shallower, less deep than usual. It happens because an emotion needs to be deprived of energy and weakened to be held back. This is done with superficial breathing: limited intake of oxygen or, if you wish, prana helps you retain control. When you start getting aware of a change in the depth of your breathing, you will see the emotions being suppressed at that moment. After you see that, you will be able to change your reaction.
There are (quite many) people whose breathing changes in the range from the superficial to almost none. It demonstrates that they keep controlling themselves and their feelings. As the endless tension and abnormal breathing are never of use, such people fall ill sooner or later, and a trivial neurotic disorder is by far not the worst thing that might happen to them.
Since emotions try to express themselves through the body, this expression will mostly be controlled with muscles. They will be contracting involuntarily to prevent the emotional energy from showing itself. That is why those who are well aware of their body can trace occurrence of such involuntary muscle tension and see what emotion has been suppressed. If you manage to see such tension at once, after it has started to appear, you can relax your muscles consciously and disrupt this process.
The fear is suppressed into the lower part of your belly and partly legs, the anxiety goes to the upper part of your belly, sadness remains in the chest, and fury fills your shoulders, arms, neck and jaw muscles. It is sketchy description of the control zones, but still a proper one. I think it is not necessary to describe the intricacies related to the muscle control over each emotion. If you wish, you can find them on your own.
The power and use of awareness is that it enables you to perceive yourself by directly studying the processes in all the layers of a human being rather based on other people’s words. Man cannot remain unchanged if he sees the mechanical nature of his internal reactions at least once, the same way as a direct sun ray changes the taste of the beer poured into the glass forever. I have spoken to some people who said: I got aware of my fury and saw the suppressed fear and the reason for suppressing it... The words they say are right and beautiful, without a hitch, but it gets obvious some time later that their being has not changed at all: their unconscious fury keeps flowing, and the fear still limits the choice of possible actions. So it gets clear that all the “revelations” took place in their mind only, fed by their imagination rather than seeing. Sometimes people lie to themselves so artfully that no references to inconsistencies in their being and their statements are of help: they always find a way to justify themselves.